Ten Life Lessons I Learned From My Horses

Santafe.com - August 31, 2011

"You can’t lie to a horse"

My horses have been teaching me lessons for the past 20 years. That’s why I use them in my life coaching – so others can experience their wise guidance. Horses are powerful, beautiful, intelligent and responsive. They are mysterious and we have a deep connection with them. Buck Brannaman, about whom a wonderful documentary has recently been made, states that horses are a mirror to our soul. And they are fabulous teachers and guides.

Here are some of the life lessons I’ve learned from them:

Be Present: There is no time like the present. Look around, take it in and see what is really happening. Don’t “assume,” futurize or live in the past.

Be Congruent: Make sure that what you say is really what you feel. You can’t lie to a horse.

Have intention: When you communicate something, do it with clarity and focus. Otherwise people (and horses) get confused.

Buck the Rules: Actually, who’s making the rules anyway? Live the life you want to live – you’re allowed to buck if it feels good.

Demonstrate Leadership: Get people (and horses) to follow you because they want to, not because you demand, kick or tie them up.

Be Patient: Change takes time, learning takes energy. “Take the time it takes.” – Ray Hunt

Develop a Soft Feel: Be flexible, soft and stop bracing. Life can be fun, relaxed and easy going. Pushing on things does not get results.

Pay Attention: Notice what your intuition tells you; tune into what happens before what happens, happens.

Set Boundaries: Don’t let just anyone into your space. Choose the people you want to be with and the places and things you want to get involved with.

Create Partnerships: Work and play with people who share and people who are “with you” and “get you.”

Get Back In The Saddle: When you fall off, don’t give up. Accept that life will always be unpredictable, and get back in that saddle and try again.

Joy Silha is a Life Coach who also uses horses to help women learn about themselves.

“Awaken Your Inner Cowgirl” Life Coaching offers individual sessions with horses or small workshops. She can be contacted at www.awakenyourinnercowgirl.com or at joysilha@gmail.com