"You can’t lie to a horse"
My horses have been teaching me lessons for the past 20 years. That’s why I use them in my life coaching – so others can experience their wise guidance. Horses are powerful, beautiful, intelligent and responsive. They are mysterious and we have a deep connection with them. Buck Brannaman, about whom a wonderful documentary has recently been made, states that horses are a mirror to our soul. And they are fabulous teachers and guides.
Here are some of the life lessons I’ve learned from them:
Be Present: There is no time like the present. Look around, take it in and see what is really happening. Don’t “assume,” futurize or live in the past.
Be Congruent: Make sure that what you say is really what you feel. You can’t lie to a horse.
Have intention: When you communicate something, do it with clarity and focus. Otherwise people (and horses) get confused.
Buck the Rules: Actually, who’s making the rules anyway? Live the life you want to live – you’re allowed to buck if it feels good.
Demonstrate Leadership: Get people (and horses) to follow you because they want to, not because you demand, kick or tie them up.
Be Patient: Change takes time, learning takes energy. “Take the time it takes.” – Ray Hunt
Develop a Soft Feel: Be flexible, soft and stop bracing. Life can be fun, relaxed and easy going. Pushing on things does not get results.
Pay Attention: Notice what your intuition tells you; tune into what happens before what happens, happens.
Set Boundaries: Don’t let just anyone into your space. Choose the people you want to be with and the places and things you want to get involved with.
Create Partnerships: Work and play with people who share and people who are “with you” and “get you.”
Get Back In The Saddle: When you fall off, don’t give up. Accept that life will always be unpredictable, and get back in that saddle and try again.
Joy Silha is a Life Coach who also uses horses to help women learn about themselves.